Monday, February 21, 2011

Letting Go









The title of this blog may catch every readers attention in a different way. Find out the various ways one can associate the idea of letting go. Let us start with the thought of letting go of oneself, a loved one, place or thing. I stayed over my mums house in lou of the rain. The plan was to drive back to my place after it ceased. Unfortunately, it is 12 midnight and still going strong. So, my mum and I were talking about someone that is dear to me, my dad. She said something about him that touched my heart. Without giving full detail of his life story, he is at a point in his life where he is just making all bad choices. It seems as if he has let go of himself. I started to think about others as we started to talk about him more and letting go in a broader capacity. It drove me to think of break-ups, divorces, bankruptcies, foreclosures and many others. In this blog I use letting go loosely, so that in most cases its not a bad thing. Allow me to  explain my views.

Letting go of your past – whether that means quitting an addictive relationship or grieving a death – can be one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Even if it was an unhealthy relationship, you may still struggle to move on with your life.
It's not easy, but there are practical ways to let go of your past. Before you delve into letting go and saying good-bye to your past, however, you may need to face your memories and experiences. No matter the situation I believe these can help anyone that is in the process of letting go.

Excercises

  • I always found it best to get over something through the art of writing, talking, drawing, and coloring(or painting for those no longer in touch with there adolescents side)
  • Don't dwell on the painful memories and emotions you may feel, if you must cry do so.
  • Sometimes it brings closure when you can talk to the person involved, if possible. If you can relive the past for a moment it can help you get over it.
  • If your at the point in your life where you can be open to anyone, share your real feelings, confess to your mistakes and express your emotions.
  • Every situation may not end because of the other persons mishaps, you may have been the cause. That's okay. Don't hesistate to apologize and ask forgiveness if you need to.
  • Don't over indulge on food, liquor or drugs. Harming yourself isn't an option either.
  • If you have a problem the first thing you must do is ,admit you have a problem.
  • Seek help. Don't be to proud to ask. Its not unheard of to bury your pride when you need and want help. Letting go is a very difficult thing to do, but you can overcome anything if you want to. Just Don't Give Up.
No matter how bad of a storm you been through you cannot change anything. Acknowledge, the hard work you have done thus far. Forgive yourself and others for the mistakes made. If you can't try to forgive realize that not only is this unhealthy but can cause negativity(thoughts, actions, obsessions). When reading this you may say easier said than done, true but overtime you will find yourself believing in the same things mentioned in this blog. Change comes overtime. You will be able to heal and move on. Another remedy, that is helpful is to start meeting new people. If you have to get a whole new set of friends,environment, lifestyle feel free. It is extremely important to face your fears(failures), vent, share your pain and sadness. Remember, in order to have someone listen to you, you must listen to them equally. There is nothing like devoting your time to a persons problems and when you have a problem they sell  you short, or just to busy to listen. Learn new directions and paths for you to start on, like a hobby or volunteer. The biggest idea is to rid yourself from your comfort zone. In the case of a relationship, take a break. You may be confused, madly in loved or abused but it may not be wise to spend time with him/her. Let GO but DON'T give up.

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